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Domestic violence refers to the violence and
abuse which happens in a domestic setting like cohabitation or marriage.
It is important to remember that domestic violence is not just physical
but any kind of behaviour that tries to gain power and control over the
victim. It can affect people from all walks of life and it basically
subjects towards a partner, spouse or intimate family member.
Abuse can come in many forms, such as:
physical or verbal maltreatment, injury, assault, violation, rape,
unjust practices, crimes, or other types of aggression. To these descriptions, one can also add the Kantian notion of the
wrongness of using another human being as means to an end rather than as
ends in themselves. Some sources describe abuse as "socially constructed"
, which means there may be more or less recognition of the suffering of
a victim at different times and societies.
For more information visit "https://www.coe.int/en/web/gender-matters/types-of-gender-based-violence"
Follow this link for abuse survivors stories "https://safeandequal.org.au/understanding-family-violence/stories/"
Help is available visit "https://www.gov.za/faq/justice-and-crime-prevention/where-can-i-find-organisation-offers-assistance-victims-violence"
Things to do when you find yourself in a violent situation:
- Learn hand to hand combat skills - Learning hand to hand combat skills can buy you some time to escape.
- Record the abuse- Document abuse done to you. Take pictures of any injuries. Record audio or video if possible without them seeing you. Once you gathered enough evidence , you can hopefully present it to someone in the authority.
- Get out of there - Call a relative for help , friends, a trusted adult, etc. Ask if you could somehowvstay with them. This could be potentially dangerous. They could decide to kill you later on if you notify your abuser where are.
- Verbally de-escalate the situation - Learn how to defuse the situation with words. Understand the root causes of violence and try to resolve conflicts peacefully.
- Yell/Scream - Being loud and alerting people has a high chance they will come to help.
- The 4 A's of self-defence are - Attention, Awareness , Avoidence and Action.
Abusers have a way of manipulating their victims into thinking they are
the actual cause of the problem.They can manipulate you by isolating you
from people including your family and friends.They control what the
victim does, what she/he reads, who she/he talks to.They even use
jealousy to achieve compliance.
Early warning signs of an abuse:
- Gaslighting
- Emotional and verbal abuse
- Attempts to isolate you from loved ones
- Threats of physical violence
- Making everthing a competition
- Lack of empathy
- Instilling fear about their reactions
- Constant criticism and insults
- Strategic people-pleasing behaviours
- History of abuse in previous relationships
- Censorship
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