Getting a neurodiverse diagnosis as an adult can feel both clarifying and a little disorienting. It's important to remember that how it may affect you will not necessarily be how it presents itself in others. There are many reasons why you might want to get a formal diagnosis. And only you can decide whether this is something you want to do.
If you’re grappling with questions of identity, you’re in good company!
Here are a few guiding thoughts:
1. You’re Still You
This diagnosis doesn’t change who you are—it just adds context. The quirks, strengths, and patterns that make you unique are still yours. Now, you have a clearer lens to understand them and exercise greater self-compassion for why you are the way you are.
2. Notice Your Strengths
Neurodiversity comes with unique strengths. Take note of moments when your traits shine, whether it’s in memory, creativity, or focus. These are real strengths to celebrate.
3. Find Your People
Look for community, whether online or in local groups. Connecting with others who’ve had similar experiences can bring comfort and validation. There’s strength in shared understanding.
4. Define Your Own Success
It’s okay if your path doesn’t look “traditional.” Embrace what feels meaningful for you, whether it’s in career, relationships, or hobbies. Success is personal.
5. Seeking tools and professional support
Grapping a diagnosis in your adulthood can very well be an indicator that you fall into the bucket of being high-functioning. Sometimes the goal is to simply find tools and understanding that help you tap into your potential because you're working with your brain rather than against it.
Consulting a psychiatrist or career coach who has an expertise in neurodiversity may very well help you navigate the overwhelm and figure out tools that work for you. This may also help you find your voice to express your needs and gratitude towards loved ones or your workplace so that you can be set up for success.
Your new found enlightenment marks a new chapter. Embrace it as a chance to get to know yourself better and build a life to the best possible version of yourself.
Writing a pros and cons list for diagnosis might help you decide whether a formal diagnosis is right for you. And if it's not, there are still many resources available online and offline worth exploring.
