SUBCONSCIOUS BEHAVIORS that are KEEPING YOU from HAVING THE LIFE YOU WANTS
Every generation has a “monoculture” of sorts, a governing pattern or system of
beliefs that people unconsciously accept as “truth.”
The fundamentals of any given monoculture tend to surround what we should
be living for (nation, religion, self, etc.) and there are a number of ways in which
our current system has us shooting ourselves in the feet as we try to step
forward. Here, 7 of the most pervasive.
You believe that creating your best life is a matter of deciding what you
want and then going after it, but in reality, you are psychologically
incapable of being able to predict what will make you happy.
When things don't work out the way you want them to,
you think you've failed only because you didn't re-create something you
perceived as desirable.
Living in the moment isn't a lofty ideal reserved for the Zen
and enlightened; it's the only way to live a life that isn't infiltrated with
illusions. It's the only thing your brain can actually comprehend.
You extrapolate the present moment because you believe that success is
somewhere you “arrive,” so you are constantly trying to take a snapshot
of your life and see if you can be happy yet.
There is nowhere to “arrive” to. Theonly thing you're rushing toward is death. Accomplishing goals is
not
success. How much you expand in the process is.
You assume that when it comes to following your “gut instincts,”
happiness is “good” and fear and pain are “bad.”
When you consider doing something that you truly love and are invested
in, you are going to feel an influx of fear and pain, mostly because it will
involve being vulnerable.
Not wanting to do something would make you feel indifferent about it. Fear = interest.
You think that to change your beliefs, you have to adopt a new line of
thinking, rather than seek experiences that make that thinking self evident.
If you want to change your beliefs, go out and have experiences that make
them real to you. Not the opposite way around.
You think “problems” are roadblocks to achieving what you want, when
in reality they are pathways.
The “problem” becomes a catalyst for you to actualize the
life you always wanted. It pushes you from your comfort zone, that's all.
You think your past defines you, and worse, you think that it is an
unchangeable reality, when really, your perception of it changes as you
do.
This doesn't mean to disregard or gloss over painful or traumatic events,
but simply to be able to recall them with acceptance and to be able to
place them in the storyline of your personal evolution.
You try to change other people, situations, and things or you just
complain/get upset about them when anger = self-recognition. Most
negative emotional reactions are you identifying a disassociated aspect
of yourself.
