We all give and receive love in 5 different ways:
These are called 'love languages' - a concept created by Dr. Gary Chapman through his long-time work as a marriage counsellor.
Acts of Service:
For these people, actions speak
louder than words. Use action phrases like "I'll help...". They want to
know you're with them, partnered with them. Do chores together or make
breakfast in bed. Go out of your way to help alleviate something in
their daily workload.
Receiving Gifts:
For some people, receiving a
heartfelt gift is what makes them feel most loved. Thoughtfulness, make
your spouse a priority, speak purposefully. Give thoughtful gifts and
gestures. Small things matter in a big way. Express gratitude when
receiving a gift.
Quality Time:
This language is all about giving
the other person your undivided attention. Uninterupted and focused
conversations. One-on-one time is critical. Create speacial moments
together, take walks and do small things with your partner. Weekend
getaways and intentionally planned time are huge!
Words of Affirmation:
This language uses words to
affirm other people. Encourage, affirm, appriciate, emphasize, and
listen actively. Send an unexpected note, text, or card. Genuinely
encourage your partner, and often.
Physical Touch:
To this person, nothing speaks
more deeply than appropriate physical touch. Non verbal - use body
language and touch to express love. Hug, kiss, hold hands, show physical
affection often. Make intimacy a thoughtful and consistant priority.