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1. Be Your Own Bestfriend First
I know that you’re thinking that this is a bit of a cliché, and to be completely honest it is a bit, however believe me when I say that this is the most important tip of ALL. Think about this: How do you want someone to want to meet you and spend time with you if you are not willing to do it yourself? And how do you want people to get to know you if you don't really know yourself that well? Impossible, right? So, first of all, focus in yourself: Grab a glass of wine 🍷 and binge-watch your favorite series, go make that trip that you really wanted to do ✈, finally enroll in that art class 🎨 that you think you’d enjoy so much… DO SOMETHING FOR YOU! And while you’re busy knowing, loving and working on the best version of yourself, everyone around you will notice your glow and positivity, and will want to be part of all of that awesomeness. You’ll see! 😉
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2. Loose The Frown
Like, really. Loose it. No one, and I mean no one, wants to meet some grumpy, arrogant, intimidating a**hole. And I am not saying you are like that but maybe that’s the perception that people have of you at first glance. If you want to make new friends, you’ll want to pass the image that you’re approachable and trustworthy. So, uncross your arms and wear your best smile! It will make wonders for you! And remember: any smile is better than no smile at all. Even a kind of creepy one 😬
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3. Be Open
Now, this is a vague one, I know. Open about what really? Well, this one can go both ways: you should be open about yourself and you also should be open about others. So, how that works? Being open about yourself is not being afraid of showing who you really are. That “same-old, same-old” stuff about being yourself, you know? The truth is that it really only exists one “you” in the whole world, so wouldn’t be a shame to prevent others from knowing your real you (with flaws and all)? Besides that, no one can fake who they are for so long and the truth is that no one likes fake people. And what about be open with others? We all have a type of person that we are naturally drawn to like and make friendships with, and there is nothing wrong about that. However, sometimes we spend so much time and energy in the searching for that specific kind that we miss the opportunity of meeting some awesome, unique and interesting people that could add amazing things to your life… You don’t want all of your friends to be clones of one another, do you?
There is value in diversity! 👨🔬👨🍳👨🔧👩💻👨🚒👨🚀🦹🦸🧕
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4. Pay Attention
Do you know something that everyone likes? People who show interest. Why? Because everyone likes to feel special. If you can make that happen, it’s a thousand times easier to make someone like you and trust you enough to be your friend. So, how the heck do we do that? The answer is much simpler that you could possible think: Just pay attention! Easy right? When you really pay attention to someone, you’ll find it easier to get to know them and to notice things in common between you two. Paying attention isn’t just sitting there listening to someone talk and talk about themselves for hours while bouncing your head up and down from time to time though - or the conversation will end fast (unless you encounter a egocentrically prick , which it’s not a win either, believe me in that one). You need to listen, of course, but you need to engage in conversation: make visual contact, make questions, say something funny, give a compliment… all of that will help the bounding process. And that applies to new friends and friends you already have. How many times did you notice a group of friends somewhere and everyone’s in their phone instead of talking to each other and having fun? Too many, right? Don’t be, and I repeat do NOT be, that kind of person. Communication, people! That’s the key!
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5. Be Bold
Now, this is the moment when you say: “But I already do all of this stuff and nobody approach me anyway!” Well, duh! What are you waiting for? Do it yourself! If everyone is waiting for someone else to take the first step, we would all be a bunch of loners. What would be the fun in that, right? 🤷♀️
Being bold is all about taking charge of your own life and do what you have to do to get what you want. Whether starting a conversation, joining some clubs or going out more, what’s important is that you have the power to create your own opportunities. So take risks, don’t hold back, and when an opportunity comes, face It with no fears and say: GAME ON! 💪